| Location | Birmingham |
| Age | 60 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 12/03/1948 |
| Date of Death | 11/02/2009 |
| Visitors | 4,247 since 09/03/2009 |
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Hazel Stone lost her fight against Breast Cancer at 11.00pm on Wednesday 11 February 2009.
Originally diagnosed in May 2004, Hazel underwent a double mastectomy in September 2004 followed by a gruelling round of chemotherapy and radiotherapy and all seemed well until Boxing Day 2008. Diagnosed with a chest infection and pluerisy, she seemed to be improving in mid-January but sadly this was not meant to be. The cancer had returned and by the time it was diagnosed, Hazel was too ill to leave her bedroom. Secondary cancers had been growing in her bones and brain for around 12-18 months.
She fought a strong battle, she hid her concerns from her family and carried on with life. Her family only found out the true extent of her illness a few days before she died.
She had two beautiful grandchildren, Luke and Lucy, she doted on them both and enjoyed being with them and spoiling them. She also enjoyed time with her great-nieces, Cara & Katy and Rebecca & Sophie.
She was stubborn and headstrong, kind and generous and had a willingness to help anyone. Most of all she was proud and protective of her family and she will be very sadly missed.
The following eulogy was read at her funeral.
Hazel was born at Stirling Royal Infirmary in 1948 to Adam and Evelyn. She had an older brother Gayle and the family completed with the births of her younger siblings, De-Ette, Stanley, Tony and Sylvia.
As a young girl she grew up in Ross Priory before the family moved to Aronprior where Hazel attended Balfron High School. She was a bright intelligent girl, keen on sports and she also became a prefect. After leaving school Hazel began working at various hotels and shops and by 1972 she was employed at the woollen mill in Calander. It was here that she first met Graham. He was the coach driver for 12 day Scottish tours and each fortnight he would make a stop at the woollen mill where he would always make time for a brief chat with Hazel. By August however, Graham told Hazel that this was to be his last visit and so Hazel simply told him to send her a Christmas card and addresses were duly swapped. This exchange of cards was to continue for the next five years.
In September 1978, Hazel was involved in a serious car accident. It was suggested she took a break with a change of scenery. She chose the Midlands, met up again with Graham and they soon became inseparable. Upon her return home, Graham would drive up to Ayrshire most weekends to be with her and by March 1979, Hazel returned with him accompanied by three foster children, two cats and three dogs and together they settled in Wylde Green. They married at Birmingham Registry Office in September of the same year, a marriage to last almost 30 years. Graham worked as a Private Hire Officer for West Midlands Transport whilst Hazel worked at various places as a telephone receptionist. Two of the foster children chose to return to Scotland but Teresa chose to remain and totally embraced family life with Graham and Hazel and after years of fighting the system, they proudly, legally adopted her days before her 18th birthday.
Hazel and Graham started their own family with a son, Gareth, born in 1980. Sadly he suffered with spina-bifida and lived for just one month. Then in 1982 they were blessed with a daughter, Bernadette. The family moved to Erdington in September 1983 and it was around this time that I became friends with Hazel and Graham and will always remember those wonderful times spent together chatting or sharing an evening at St Marys and St John’s Social Club.
Besides keeping a good home and being a proud and caring Mum to Teresa and Bernadette, Hazel enjoyed gardening and had a love of music, particularly Foster ad Allen. She enjoyed visiting friends and family in Scotland and was so happy that so many of her family moved to the Midlands so she could spend more time with them. As Bernadette grew up, Hazel returned to work temping as a telephone receptionist, with many companies wanting her to stay full time. Hazel also enjoyed family holidays spent not only in Scotland, but also in Devon – Paignton and Torquay, and then latterly Kefalonia. By 2000 she had begun work at Birmingham Airport in the British Airways Executive lounge but in 2001 she was involved in another car accident and bar a couple of times, she never drove again. She finished her employment at the airport and excepting a few small jobs, she never really worked again.
In 2004 her life changed totally with the birth of her first grandchild, a boy, Luke. Her diary entry for that day read, “I have been handed the world on a golden plate, I love him already”. In 2006 she was equally proud with the birth of her first granddaughter, Lucy. She doted on them both and enjoyed being with them and spoiling them. She also enjoyed time with her great-nieces, Cara and Kay and Rebecca and Sophie.
However, back in 2004, Hazel had been diagnosed with breast cancer and after treatment, she appeared to recover well. But only last year, secondary cancers appeared. Hazel fought a strong battle; she hid it from her family and continued with her life. Time spent with her family, in her garden and with her little dog Pippa. Her family only found out the true extent of her illness a week before she passed away.
So how will Hazel be remembered? She was stubborn and headstrong, kind and generous, had a willingness to help anyone and was always cheerful. Most of all she was protective and proud of her family. She will be very sadly missed.
But each of you have your own memories of Hazel. I have already told you she had a great love of Foster and Allen. Hazel had been to 149 concerts and had been given complimentary tickets by Tony Allen to attend her 150th concert as their guest on 19th April. Hazel sadly won’t be there but as you hold a personal thought of Hazel, we will listen together to Foster and Allen sing Far Away a Light is burning.
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Missing You
I don't think I will ever get used to not having you around. People lose there mothers everyday, and I look at other people and often wonder how they cope. The truth is, I don't think you ever except it, you just learn to live with it. I still think of you, I don't think I've missed a night when I've said goodnight to you and wondered if you are till out there somewhere. I don't cry as much now, and things don't upset me quite as much, but I think that has more to do with the things that are going on around me. Before all this kicked off, I was slowly disappearing into a very dark place, finally having chance to grieve. And then this took hold an took my mind off it again. I still muddle through everyday, not always knowing how to feel haf the time, but I do miss you, every second of everyday. So many things I want to tell you and talk to you about, only you can't talk back and I can only imagine what you would be saying to me.
We spent all day in the garden today, Jon cut down the hedge, it wasn't done last year and has about 4ft cut off it as it had grown so much. I couldn't help but think of the last time we did it together, you getting all wound up about Jon trappling on the plants and making such a mess, it really made me smile. Luke and Lucy had a whale of a time being allowed to dig hole's in Grandad's garden. We are having to clear so much of it, it is so overgrown and Dad really can't manage on his own with it. They did a great job helping to clear up as well, in fact, for some strange reason they seemed to have more fun doing that!?!?!? I bought them some gloves and a kneeling pad each yesterday and they loved them.
I wish you were here to fix this mess for us, you would know how to put them in their place! If you are up there somewhere, looking down, throw us a bit of luck so we can get out of this mess!
Love you loads Mum, and I really, really miss you.
Bernie
xxxxx
I Miss You,
I Miss Your Smile,
And I Still Shed A Tear,
EveryOnce In A While,
And Even Know Its Different Now,
Your Still Here Somehow,
My Heart Wont Let You Go,
And I Want You To Know,
That I Miss You,
I Know Your In A Better Place,
But I Wish I Could See Your Face,
I Know Your Where You Need To Be,
I wish heaven had a phone, so i could hear
your voice again. I thought of you today, but that is nothing new. I
thought about you yesterday and days before that too. I think of you
in silence, i oftenspeak your name. All i have are memories and a picture
in a frame.
I Miss You.....
Oh Mum, I miss you so much. Jon's mum had her operation yesterday. I know it wan't as bad as yours but it's too close to home, still so raw, I can't bear the thought of something happening to her too. She's home and all looks good, but it's still not fair. She shouldn't be going through all this, she's had enough to cope with the last couple of years, none of us need anymore heartache.
I so want to pick up the phone and just talk to you, hear your voice. Everytime things seem to be getting better, something else happens, will it ever end???? I just want my Mum, and I can never have that. And it hurts, I wonder how this can ever get better, life can be so cruel sometimes.
I still can't quite believe this is all real, sometimes I forget and everything is back to normal, it still doesn't feel like you're never coming back.
I love you
xxxxx
Another thing, another year.....
A year ago today, we sat at the Town Hall and listened to a wonderful tribute to you by Mick and Tony, our first Foster andAllen concert without you. And tonight we sat and listened as they said hello to Luke and Lucy, who at 6 and 3, were definately the youngest members of the audience, and despite everyone thinking they wouldn't enjoy it, that they wouldn't sit still for all that time, they loved every second of it! The third generation of our family. Lulu is probably still a bit young but as this was the first concert in a long time that didn't fall on a school night, it seemed the right thing to do. Lucy was just like her Grandma, clapping and singing along. It was nice to have someone to do that with again, the whole time I sat their watching them both clapping along to the music, I kept thinking how much you would of loved seeing them enjoying themselves, and I hope you were looking down from wherever you are, and that you did see them. They did us all proud, they were as good as gold and I'm sure you would have enjoyed watching them as much as I did, if not more!
It is still so hard without you, I miss you so much, and I'm finding it harder by the day right now. I want my Mum back....
Love you.
Night night
B xxxxx
On your birthday.....
On your birthday we wanted to say
How much we love and miss you everyday
Though you can't be here with us
Please know we miss you very much.
We wish we could buy a present for you
But now we take a different view
We wonder if you're looking down from above
Knowing that we send our love.
With tear-filled eyes and hearts so low
We all just want you to know
You will never be that far away
Becuase in our hearts you will always stay.
Happy Birthday Mum
With lots and lots of love
xxxxx
Copyright Bernadette Stone 2010
If I should go tomorrow
It would never be goodbye,
For I have left my heart with you,
So don't you ever cry.
The love that's deep within me,
Shall reach you from the stars,
You'll feel it from the heavens,
And it will heal the scars.
Love you Mum xxxxx
Birthdays....
Hi Mum,
Strange day today.....Katy's 10th birthday party at the Pavillions. Last time we were all there you were to and it was quite strange without you. It's funny how something so ordinary can be so strange, another first yet something that you wouldn't think would matter. Can't believe it is two years in June since we were last there. But it's another first out the way and Katy had a lovely day!
Can't believe your birthday is next week either, how quickly another year has past, wish it would get easier though. It's hard to believe how much we all miss you and wish you were here.
Love you Mum
xxxxx
Your Angel Day
Well Mum, now it has been a year. A year without the mainstay of our family. A year without you. God, it has gone so quickly. Your 'mound' is absolutely covered in flowers, shows how much you are loved and missed by us all. It still feels that you will walk back through the door laughing your head off, that this has all been one big, cruel joke. I wouldn't mind if it was. Reliving your final hours ha been like hell on earth, well the last couple of weeks have really. The world doesn't seem to be as bright as it was, without our Sunshine in it.....
Love you Mum, night night
B xxxxx
Special Angel Day - by Carmelle Gross
We do not need a special day
To bring you to our minds.
The days we do not think of you
Are very hard to find.
Each morning when we awake
We know that you are gone.
And no one knows the heartache
As we try to carry on.
Our hearts still ache with sadness
And secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you
No one will ever know.
Our thoughts are always with you,
Your place no one can fill.
In life we loved you dearly;
In death we love you still.
There will always be a heartache,
And often a silent tear.
But always a precious memory
Of the days when you were here.
If tears would make a staircase,
And heartaches make a lane,
We'd walk the path to heaven
And bring you home again.
We hold you close within our hearts;
And there you will remain,
To walk with us throughout our lives
Until we meet again.
Our family chain is broken now,
And nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.
Sending lots of love to you & your loved ones on this your Angel Day xxxxx
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